Improving Family Relationships through Communication and Forgiveness

Families Can Be Together Forever

I recently had a crucial conversation with my Mother. It started out with her just checking in on me to see how I was doing, her knowing I’d just received my second dose of vaccination for COVID 19, in my line of work.

After we’d finished discussing this topic, she asked me if there was anything else I wanted to say to her. At first, I hesitated inside, but in this case, my heart and spirit won out, and I carefully and bravely began to share some things I’ve had issues with family members for many years.

I went on to express and share openly, telling her how I felt. She listened, and when I was done, she spoke, and I listened. Together we were able to learn from each other, and see more of the picture of the puzzle to these painful and unsolved matters.

As we spoke truth in love one to another, as illuminated by honesty and the guidance of the Holy Spirit, the very real and impassible barriers of emotional and mental turmoil were opened, and I could finally begin to choose my pathway home, of healed and repaired relationships.

My spiritually relatable thoughts on this are as follows:

Relationships are based on love, love is built on trust, and trust is built on communication. If we stop communicating, we stop trusting, and thus loving.

Being away from someone to get some space to learn and grow is fine. In fact, this is the best choice in many cases. However, in the Lord’s good timing, a window will be opened, and the Spirit will direct when it’s good, and how to reach out to make amends and forgive. Many times, people who’ve really been hurt, close off their hearts to protect themselves from getting hurt again. While this serves its purposes, there also comes a time when strength in vulnerability has a place.

Life is so precious. So are relationships and salvation. They go hand in hand. We need each other. Don’t let pride, fear, jealously, past fights, selfishness, arguments or anything else win the war over you and your family line, both past, present or future. Your division effects not only you and your individual disputes. They effect both before and beyond, and sadly, into the eternities, where it will be harder to resolve such tragedies. Trust me, you will want to be more proactive in your building of family ties, if you knew what you’d be losing, and the glories you could’ve gained and enjoyed.

Shane

Relationships – We Can Change People: Part One

Influence Is Given To All

The cosmos…

In all the immensities of space, both inward and outward, where all entities, beings and elements have infinite influence and power to create and build upon one another, a simple formula is born. A thought that every thought, act and feeling, has power and a rippling effect to bring about change to all the universe we are a part of, and infinitely beyond. This is a fact to consider.

Influence itself is a power. Our thoughts, whether verbally spoken or not, effect, and make changes in our eternal surroundings.

Newton’s law – Every action, has an equal and opposite reaction. (Paraphrased by: Shane R. Brown)

Every action causes another action or reaction. A negative action can cause another negative reaction, or a negative action can set in motion a positive action or response. This is through the power of Christ’s atonement to accomplish this, for no good thing can be done without Him. We get to choose how we will act, or react. If the latter, than the outcome is predictable.

The ability to act in positive and righteous ways, is all sourced from our Savior. Without Him, all would be lost. There needs to be a balance in all things, even an opposition. Without the atonement of our God, all of us, as well as all the elements and intelligences, of souls and beings in the eternal making, would be lost. For in His atoning effort, He saves all, in due course, through the seasons of the eternities.

Particles, elements… What we all have in common.

  • Who are we really ?

We are all entities, yes, but infinitely much more than that. We are children of the Most High God, called up to be so. Individuals with varying traits, but not surprisingly, each with the same capacity and force as all other entities.

  • So, what else are we?

We are not only beings of energy, light and understanding, but also beings of emotional feelings. Yes, we are more than just chemical reactors, but more like agents made to act for ourselves. We all have the ability to choose.

  • Why relationships?

Another question to counter would be, why not?

Because we all are equal in entity and force, we need to understand, that continuing to treat each other with equality and respect is best. As children of God, we also face the undeniable truth and need, to have love and truth reciprocated back to us.

When practiced, we will have the need for righteous judgement, which comes only from God, and will be a great and positive influence. It is also important to help others exercise and build up their faith.

The healthiest and most productive people, have found a positive way to interact, which indeed comes from our loving, living and charitable God, whose light and care, are above all. This is also the most fulfilling and rewarding way to accomplish life itself.

Helping others fulfills an undeniable need placed in us as children of God in light . In doing so, we need to give our all, 100%. Because we are separate entities, there is a natural space between us. It is when we give our 100% to meet in the middle, that a true exchange can be given. Only then can relationships begin.

In working with this connection, we can then utilize our synergy, to begin to become one, in the very same way that the Father and the Son are one.

Maybe a more accurate term for describing the law between entities and beings should be: Every action has an equal and opposite action or reaction, meaning that we can react negatively to a negative action, or we can act positively to a negative action. The same would hold true for the opposite.

Let us retain the ability to act righteously, which is by definition the meaning of agency (the ability to do good), and choose to act and not react. In this way, we will continue in mutual enjoyment, giving equally in our relationships.

May we all strive to give our 100% and meet each other in the middle, thus failing to undermine ourselves, and eventually society as a whole.

Shane

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